I’m not even about to lie to you guys. Being a mom is literally a full time, 24 hours, 7 days a week, unpaid holidays type of job that we all can agree is exhausting and I mean really exhausting. If you’re like me, you probably can not afford to book a flight whenever you feel like flying to the Virgin Islands for a getaway right? So I accumulated a few at home, self-care ideas that I’ve tried myself and can truly say has helped me keep my sanity.
Through all of the crying, whining, and cartoons on repeat, us mamas need some quiet time. Put the baby to sleep, go into the other room if needed, and spend a few minutes in complete silence with zero distractions. This could be a time of prayer and devotion or self reflection. I personally say silence is music to a mothers’ ears. We’re so much on edge and in mommy mode from the time that we wake up that it’s hard to get those moments of silence so catch them while you can.
Remember You Da Bomb.
Do you remember before the baby when everything fit nice and tight? No stretch marks and no mommy pouch? You could pretty much wear whatever, go out with friends every other weekend (if not every weekend?). Well I sure do. Having a baby really does revise your life. You invest so much time in taking care of her that you unknowingly forget to take care of yourself eventually feeling like you’re loosing yourself. Well don’t loose yourself. Take a candle lit bath, go get your hands and feet done (throw your eyebrows in while you’re at it), do a full face and have a mini photo shoot. Whatever you have to do to remind yourself that you still got it goin’ on.
Every woman’s body is not the same so don’t expect or compare your bounce back to be like the next girl. My daughter is half way to two years old and I’m still working on loosing and keeping my baby weight far away. That’s where my go-to workouts come in at. Focus on the midsection, thighs, butt, or wherever else you want to tighten up. With consistency, a moderate diet, and plenty of water baby fat will not be as difficult to shed rather than not doing anything at all.
It can be difficult trying to get back into the groove of things after having a baby. My social life was just about no more because I was now a mother and spent my days at home caring my newborn daughter. When I did finally get the chance to do something fun baby-free, it felt great! We all need a break sometimes even if that just be for a couple hours. Pick a day, find a trustworthy babysitter, and take a night off. We can sometimes forgot that we have a life outside of mommyhood but some refreshers every now and then won’t hurt.
Talk to someone.
If no one ever told you this, it is definitely okay not to be okay. Postpartum depression is very much real and I’ve experienced it first hand. I felt out of sync with my emotions to a certain degree that made the situation worse. I found myself holding a lot of things in due to the fact I didn’t feel like I had anyone to turn to. If you do have someone that you can openly talk to, I highly recommend it. A lot of pressure can be taken away from simple expression, making life on a day-to-day basis much easier. Of course there are plenty of postpartum depression resources in a time of crisis so please be sure you take care of your mental health before anything as a mother.